I have attended 5 wedding receptions over the past 2 months. Wow!! Everyone is getting married in August and September. I guess it is because of the superstitious months of 8 and 9. In Chinese 8 symbolizes prosperity and 9 signifies forever and ever. For Chinese this is the best month to tie the knot. However, the month of august this year coincides with the month of ghost and certainly, many typical Chinese will try to avoid august.
So, what do you think about marriage? Is it a once in a lifetime event? Not really because some couple break up and remarry again and again. Every girl dreamt to have a perfect & grand wedding, however, the cost of wedding is getting higher. Fifteen years ago, the cost of a normal wedding is around 15k but now it’s 5 times higher. It’s very expensive to get marry now days! Everyone is trying to impress everybody. Every couple is trying to create the most memorable wedding from the church wedding to the dinner banquet. Everyone is trying to be creative. I can still recall that Erra Fazirra’s wedding was crowned the wedding of the year back in year 2003.
Recently I attended my sis’s future brother in-law wedding. Both me and my hubby were quite impressed with the unique entrance by the couple. Their relatives were united in purpose. They used traditional bamboos to carry the bride and groom and marched their way in for the grand entrance. The feeling was exactly like the king and queen of the day!! I should try this before..hahaha..:)
For a married couple like us, we always tend to compare other couple’s wedding with ours. Well, we will start to fantasize and how I wish….my wedding is like this…hehehe…J It’s normal to fantasize even though you are married. You still can dream on having the 25th anniversary..hehehe..:) Basically, what I am trying to say is that a marriage is not about the one off event, marriage lies with responsibility and commitment.
It is said that marriages are made in heaven and celebrated on earth. It is a special bond shared between two souls, who tie the wedding knot after promising to be companions for a lifetime. It is the physical, mental and spiritual union of two souls. It brings significant stability and substance to human relationships, which is otherwise incomplete. Well, that’s the theory of marriages, however nowadays most people marry to escape societal pressure; they marry for the name, not to appear odd among married peers. Some pressure also comes from parents who want to measure up to their peers.
Sometimes, marriages fail because people marry when they are madly in love, so they literally sign the marriage contracts when they are in a state of madness. Besides, many don’t take marriage as a life long commitment rather a life convenience, once convenience falter it’s adios baby.
Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate. ~Barnett R. Brickner
